We see common patterns in how men make sense of traumatic events that they have witnessed or experienced. Our programme offers a way of making sense of what happened in the past and finding new meaning in present day life.

To support this, we have structured our services as a series of progressive steps. Each of these introduces different tools that can help men understand the impact of unwanted sexual experiences and reduce any negative feelings.
While the first of these steps is always individual, later steps offer the opportunity to share and learn from other men’s experiences within facilitated peer-support groups. However, there is no obligation and advice will be given to ensure that a suitable choice can be made.

Stage 1 - Introductory call

Once you have completed our online self-referral form, we arrange a time for a 15 minute telephone call. You won’t need to discuss any details about your experiences. This is just to gather some information and to make sure from the outset that we are the best service for you.

Stage 2 - Initial meeting

The initial meeting is where you can tell us more about yourself and what you need at the moment. It is not a counselling session and we do not ask for any details about what has happened to you except what age the incident/s occurred. This is so we can make sure that you are offered the right service at the right time. The bullet points below run through what we ask at this meeting.

The main questions are about:

  • Current life situation – work, relationships, housing, children, health, etc.
  • Support network – who you have around you and other forms of support you access.
  • Family background – details of your parents, carers and siblings.
  • Health – engagement with other services, use of drugs and alcohol, etc.
  • Any previous support – what you found useful and not useful in the past.

This all helps give a general overview of what is happening in your life, why you are looking for help, and what you would like to achieve. We will also tell you about how our service works and answer any questions you may have.

The initial meeting will go at your pace and you don’t have answer any of the questions if you don’t want to. We are aware of how difficult this first meeting can be and want to make it as comfortable for you as possible.

Stage 3 - Individual counselling

This is your opportunity to talk in confidence, maybe for the first time, about how you are feeling about what has happened to you.  For people who have not had counselling before, it can be a scary prospect. However things go at your pace and designed around your goals so that you are always in control.  You are not expected to remember or recount everything that has happened to you.  No one will push you to report your abuser to the Police or to tell anyone about what has happened.

Our counsellors create a safe space for you to help you make sense of the past, understand the present and plan for the future.

What’s Involved

  • Up to 24 weekly sessions of one hour each
  • Same time, same day, same counsellor
  • Offered at no charge or donation-based

Stage 4 - Psycho-educational course

This is a 10 week course that helps you to understand about trauma, how it affects your brain and how you can take back control.

 

Delivered in to a group of 10 with 2 facilitators, this may be the first time you meet other men that have also been through something similar to yourself.  For many this may be a scary prospect and you can work through these difficulties with your counsellor to help you take the next step.

 

What’s Involved

  • 10 weekly sessions of 2.5 hours (with a break halfway through)
  • Led by 2 facilitators
  • Maximum 10 participants
  • Same time, same day, same facilitators
  • Offered at no charge or donation-based

Stage 5 - Progress group

This is similar to individual counselling, except it takes place within a group of up to 10 peers. The facilitators create a safe space for you to share and hear others stories and learn how others have coped. The therapy group process is very strong in enabling you to process what has happened to you – this is why it is the last stage of the programme. It concentrates on helping you let go of the past and develop goals for the future.

  

What’s Involved

  • 20 weekly sessions of 2 hours (with a break halfway through)
  • Led by 2 facilitators
  • Maximum 10 participants
  • Same time, same day, same facilitators
  • Offered at no charge or donation-based