We see common patterns in how men make sense of traumatic events that they have witnessed or experienced. Our programme offers a way of making sense of what happened in the past and finding new meaning in present day life.

To support this, we have structured our services as a series of progressive steps. Each of these introduces different tools that can help men understand the impact of unwanted sexual experiences and reduce any negative feelings.
While the first of these steps is always individual, later steps offer the opportunity to share and learn from other men’s experiences within facilitated peer-support groups. However, there is no obligation and advice will be given to ensure that a suitable choice can be made.

Stage 1 - Introductory call

We always start with a telephone call. Once you have got in touch with us using our self-referral form, we arrange a 15 minute telephone call with you to check that our service is suitable and gather some basic information from you.

This makes sure from the outset that we are able to help and if not, that we can signpost you to somewhere that can.

Stage 2 - Initial meeting

The initial meeting is the first stage of accessing a service. It is here that any questions can be asked and we can make sure that men are offered the right service at the right time. Obviously, some men can feel nervous about this first meeting and what will happen. The bullet points below run through what we ask at this meeting and why. The initial meeting is not a counselling session and we do not ask for any details about what happened. All we will ask is, what age the incident occurred at and by whom.

 

The main questions are about:

  • Current life situation – work, relationships, housing, children, health, etc.
  • Current support – who the person has around them and other forms of support.
  • Family background – details of parents and siblings and relationship to them.
  • Health – engagement with other services, use of drugs and alcohol, etc.

 

This helps give a general overview of what is happening in a person’s life at the current time. We also ask about any previous counselling and how helpful that was and what they are looking for from Mankind. This helps to form a set of goals or realistic aims that can determine the type of service offered. These do not have to be fully formed at this stage, it is just useful to know why someone is looking for help at this time and what they would like to achieve.

The second part of the meeting explains the monitoring system we use to measure progress. As a charity we receive public funding so have to show that our services are effective. To do this we use a system called CORE which stands for ‘Clinical Outcomes in Routine Evaluation’.

 

This system uses a questionnaire that clients are requested to complete at regular intervals throughout the service they are accessing. Each time a questionnaire is completed it produces a graph that can be shared with the client to help show the progress they are making and how best to proceed.

At the end of the meeting, there is time for any questions and there will be a discussion on whether Mankind is the right service and what type of service would be best to offer. This is usually 1 -1 counselling and our other group services will be explained.

Sometimes we need to gather further information if the person is engaged with other services such as psychiatry. However, this is always done with the person’s consent and ensures that we are working holistically with any other services they may be engaged with.

 

The initial meeting is always done at the client’s pace and they do not have to answer any of the questions if they do not wish to. We are aware of how difficult this first meeting can be and want to make it as comfortable as possible.

Stage 3 - Individual counselling

This is your opportunity to talk in confidence, maybe for the first time, about how you are feeling about what has happened to you.  For people who have not had counselling before, it can be a scary prospect. However the counselling we provide is at your pace and designed around your goals so that you are always in control.  You do not have to do any of the following:

 

  • Remember and recount everything that happened to you
  • Report your abuser to the Police
  • Tell anybody else what you talk about in counselling.

 

Our counsellors create a safe space for you to help you make sense of the past, understand the present and plan a future.

 

To get an idea of the impact that our individual counselling makes to clients’ lives, please see the difference we make.

 

What’s Involved

  • Up to 24 weekly sessions of one hour each
  • Same time, same day, same counsellor
  • Offered at no charge or donation-based

Stage 4 - Psycho-educational course

This is a 10 week course that helps you to understand about trauma, how it affects your brain and how you can take back control.

 

Delivered in a classroom style with 2 facilitators, this may be the first time you meet other men that have also been through something similar to yourself.  For many this may be a scary prospect and we appreciate the difficulty you may have in taking this next step. However, men that attend this course, get amazing benefits as the testimonies below show:

 

What’s Involved

  • 10 weekly sessions of two hours each (with a break halfway through)
  • Facilitator led by 2 facilitators
  • Maximum 10 participants
  • Same time, same day, same facilitators
  • Offered at no charge or donation-based

 

You can view an introduction to Mankind’s Psycho-educational course, with some taster videos, by clicking here.

Stage 5 - Progress group

This is similar to individual counselling, except it takes place within a peer group setting.  Again, a safe environment is created and here, you can share and hear others stories and learn how others have coped. The therapy group process is very strong in enabling you to process what has happened to you – this is why it is the last stage of the programme.  The Progress Group concentrates on letting go of the past and developing goals for the future.

  

What’s Involved

  • 20 weekly sessions of 2.5 hours each (with a break halfway through)
  • Facilitator led by 2 facilitators
  • Maximum 10 participants
  • Same time, same day, same facilitators
  • Offered at no charge or donation-based